What does having your shit together involve
and is it possible to achieve it by the time you're thirty, or will we
be aiming for this our whole lives?
For me, a small move towards having my shit
together recently is doing the washing up before I go to bed (at 9.30
because I’m not in my twenties anymore and I’m tired!), as there’s
nothing better than getting out of bed in the morning to a tidy home.
Reading this back to myself makes me realise how my life has changed.
In August I turned thirty, this didn’t raise any concerns.
I’m not the type who needed to accomplish
particular goals by the the time I reached this age i.e buy a house, get
married. The latter ended up happening naturally - as already mentioned
in a recent post I’d never envisioned getting married until my now
husband proposed. But un-expected suprises are the best.
As a recent graduate all I really wanted to
do by the time I reached thirty was graduate and with a job. I’m not
22, I’ve started my climb up the career ladder later than most so having
a job when I graduated was important. I knew I would be nearly thirty
and needed to get my act together. Yes, I loved being a student but
gaining a job was the reason I went to university in the first place.
Turning thirty for many is a milestone;
some dread it, some revel in it. I even saw a guy on Instagram
celebrated his thirtieth birthday with 30 drinks in 30 pubs in 30 days.
Extravagant!
For myself it was just another birthday
celebrated with close family and friends. I’ve never been one to go all
out on Birthdays.
But what has dawned on me recently is what
my life should be or feel like now I’m thirty? Am I now a fully fledged
grown up? Because to be honest I don’t feel like I’m there yet.
I don’t own my own home and have only been
in full time work for less than a year (since leaving university).
This past few weeks, new evidence suggests we are physiologically adults
at the age of 25.
At 25 I still lived at home with my parents
and had just left my job to go back to study. I definitely didn’t feel
very adult. Yes I worked part time and paid my way but this was a far
cry from some others my age. Some were married with children by that
age, we all reach these supposed life goals at different periods. Some
may feel ready for that commitment others are still enjoying going out
drinking with friends and rolling into work with a hangover. I was
enjoying the latter and enjoyed every single minute of it.
But there comes a point when things have to change and planning your future becomes important.
It’s time to not be hungover on weekends and open that help to buy ISA.
However, we are constantly under pressure
to have life figured out, what’s the best age to get married, buy a home
or have a family. When really the majority of us will figure this out
at different times in our lives. Why should we follow stereotypes and do
as others do? Following suit can often make us feel deflated or envious
so I believe it’s great to be different and plan our lives how we want
them to be or not to be.
Getting your shit together involves many
aspects, recently I feel productivity is key! Life’s crazy busy for us
all. I work a 40+ hour week plus two hour commute there and back and I’m
trying to fit exercise into my daily routine too so being productive is
currently how I’m getting my life on track. Yes it’s tiring but that’s
life and you get out what you put in.
Carrie Bradshaw said your thirties were to
learn the lessons. She’s fictional but correct. By the time you reach
thirty you are starting to learn life’s lessons. Mistakes are made, we
are human and don’t always get things right the first time, but we learn
from them more than we did in our early twenties.
If you don’t have life figured out by the
time you're thirty, I’m sure you’re not the only one. Life’s
difficult and brilliant and terrible life changing situations are thrown
at us that we may have never expected or know how to deal with, but
we’re human and continue to learn and grow no matter what age. Small
steps to possibly having it all/ my shit together is what I’m aiming
for, it’s what we should all aim for.
ph credit - Trendland
edited using Beautiful Little Mess
